why zillenials are choosing an un- traditional wedding

Elopements, Micro Ceremonies, Backyard celebrations and Intimate Weddings are on the rise- and WE ARE LIVING FOR IT!!!

It’s no secret that Zillenials have recognized the toxic origins of traditional marriages (aka usually a woman being seen as property/ baby making machine and transferred from her patriarchal father to a new owner/husband) and are choosing better. They are getting married because… THEY LOVE EACH OTHER! Like truly, not just as an agreement you pay the bills I take care of the babies. (controversial we know). They are breaking the mold (and generational curses) by healing this warped version of what it means to commit your life to one-another.

Out with the OUT DATED traditions and in with new modern ones that make sense and aren’t rooted in weird (bad) origins. By embracing the “un-traditional” we are seeing a ripple effect across how people say “I do”. Weddings: big, small, or somewhere in between are now based around the two individuals making this life-long vow and expressing the love they share for each other in their own weird (good) way. Their “I do” celebrations are oozing with personality and intentionality.

A lot of family dynamics when planning a traditional wedding involve “people pleasing” in some way or another. We use to see the soon-to-be newlyweds bending the the will of their family for the sake of “keeping the peace” and also because parents were footing the bill. Of of late- Gen Zers and Millennials say no more!! Even with outside contribution $$ the days of saying yes to your parents 200+ guest lists and formalities are kinda over (in our opinion). Instead, they are making it all about them, cutting the guest lists to people they actually talk to and have seen within the past year and spending their wedding budget on the things that matter most (as they should)!! I mean this is your life you’re committing “till death do you part” kinda punk-rock when you really think about it.

I mean would you rather spend xyz (fill in your budget$$$$ amount) on a wedding you don’t really care for the venue, details, & guests to say you did it? ORRRRR- plan the coolest party/celebration that feels like you and really lets you express your love for each other with your favorite people? It’s a no brainer to us. Even people who are eloping are now choosing to throw a “reception” of sorts after their ceremony or when they return. We are truly recognizing what really matters in the grand scheme of humanity: Real people, real connection and real memories. After all we are here for a short time and why would we spend a second choosing something just because “thats how you’re suppose to”.

Out with forced perfectionism and shrinking your wants/needs. Get married how you want, include the things you love, leave the rest. It’s that simple!

I hope this inspires you to continue on the path of embracing the “un-traditional” and of course to keep planning the wedding of YOUR dreams to the LOVE of YOUR life. <3

xx

Logan Square, Chicago IL - Intimate Micro Wedding Images by Ttolbphotog on 35mm Film